I met with a friend who is struggling about whether to stay with his firm or start looking for another job. His fear is that his company is going to go out of business (a very reasonable thing to be afraid of!). On the other hand, his industry is tight-knit, and he doesn’t feel comfortable about a discreet job search staying confidential.
The situation is more complex because he is a key rainmaker, and has contributed substantially to the growth of the firm. Although he has no ownership in the company, he has pride in what he has accomplished and is loyal to the owners.
Ultimately, he knows that he needs to do what’s best for the future of his family. No one can advise him what to do; he needs to carefully weigh the pros and cons and make a decision.
What I did recommend, however, was that he make a decision – and stop second-guessing himself. If you’re in a situation like this, make the decision, and periodically reevaluate. Obsessing over indecisiveness is what causes the pain.